As a wedding planner, I have encountered a lot of frequently asked questions from wedding guests. In this article, I gathered the common ones and I would like to share them with you and provide effective responses. This way you can handle the situation in a professional manner.

1. “When is the wedding?”

There are times when a couple literally just got engaged, and people would immediately ask when and where the wedding would be. Obviously you don’t have that kind of information yet, but since your friends and family are very excited, you really need to give an answer. How to go about it?

Effective Response: “Thank you so much for asking, but at this time, we are still figuring these out. But once we already know when and where we are getting married, we’ll make sure you’ll find out.”

2. “What should I wear?”

Of course as a bride or a groom, you won’t really care what they wear. As long as they don’t wear white, or they follow the theme, then everything should be fine!

Effective Response: “I am sure you’re going to look good at anything, but my dress code is ___, and _____ is what I’m going for. But you are welcome to wear whatever you feel as most comfortable for you. All that I ask is that you don’t wear white.”

3. “Can I bring a plus one?”

This normally applies to people with a partner or a kid. Again, most of the planning is based on the number of headcount, meaning it is important that you are very particular with this. Basically the best way to handle this is to tell them to indicate it on the RSVP card or form, because it is important that everything is documented for the reference of the planner. Also, if the original plan is not to invite kids, or not to invite wedding guests you don’t personally know, then be firm with that decision.

Effective Response: “I really appreciate you telling me in person, but it makes it so much easier to manage it if you indicate it yourself to the RSVP card/page because so many people are doing that too. In this way, my planner won’t miss a single detail, and if possible, we can accommodate you better.”

4. Putting their Two Cents to Everything

Do not allow them to do this, especially in front of other wedding guests. They need to learn to keep your opinions to themselves, and understand that it was done that way because it was your preference. it is something that will complete your dream wedding. That is why it is done this way. It is your moment, and everything should be all about you, not them.

Effective Response: “Thank you so much for your input, but actually, this is very special to me and my fiance, and that is ultimately why we chose this.”

5. “When is the wedding?”

There are times when a couple literally just got engaged, and people would immediately ask when and where the wedding would be. Obviously you don’t have that kind of information yet, but since your friends and family are very excited, you really need to give an answer. How to go about it?

Effective Response: “Thank you so much for asking, but at this time, we are still figuring these out. But once we already know when and where we are getting married, we’ll make sure you’ll find out.”

6. “What should I wear?”

Of course as a bride or a groom, you won’t really care what they wear. As long as they don’t wear white, or they follow the theme, then everything should be fine!

Effective Response: “I am sure you’re going to look good at anything, but my dress code is ___, and _____ is what I’m going for. But you are welcome to wear whatever you feel as most comfortable for you. All that I ask is that you don’t wear white.”

7. “Can I bring a plus one?”

This normally applies to people with a partner or a kid. Again, most of the planning is based on the number of headcount, meaning it is important that you are very particular with this. Basically the best way to handle this is to tell them to indicate it on the RSVP card or form, because it is important that everything is documented for the reference of the planner. Also, if the original plan is not to invite kids, or not to invite wedding guests you don’t personally know, then be firm with that decision.

Effective Response: “I really appreciate you telling me in person, but it makes it so much easier to manage it if you indicate it yourself to the RSVP card/page because so many people are doing that too. In this way, my planner won’t miss a single detail, and if possible, we can accommodate you better.”

8. Putting their Two Cents to Everything

Do not allow them to do this, especially in front of other wedding guests. They need to learn to keep your opinions to themselves, and understand that it was done that way because it was your preference. it is something that will complete your dream wedding. That is why it is done this way. It is your moment, and everything should be all about you, not them.

Effective Response: “Thank you so much for your input, but actually, this is very special to me and my fiance, and that is ultimately why we chose this.”

And there you have it..the questions wedding guests ask often. I hope you guys find value in this article! Hopefully this will help you handle all these inquiries in the future. If you loved these suggestions, feel free to read this other blog on Wedding Guest Mistakes You Should Know About.