A bridesmaid should ask questions to their bride about their responsibilities before accepting. But first, congratulations! You were just asked to be someone’s bridesmaid! It is such an exciting time and an honor to be asked. Remember a lot of thought goes into who they want standing by their side, so a bridesmaid proposal is no joke! Before you say yes, here are some questions you can ask the happy couple. Remember don’t forget that clear, open, honest communication! 

1. As a Bridesmaid What are the Financial Obligations?

This is a super important question to ask because not all weddings are the same. Some couples have all the finances covered while some may need help. Ask if you are obligated to pay for the attire, accessories, and the shoes. Ask if she wants a bridal shower and bachelorette party. Oh and don’t forget to ask if the wedding is at a destination or will cost a lot on flights. 

2. Who Else is Going to be Part of the Party?

In some cases you might have mutual friends or were mutual friends, so asking this question is a good one. Not everyone is in this situation, but for some it does happen. Make sure you are on good terms with each other member of the wedding party. If not, try to talk it out and see if you can come to a compromise or make the decision where you should be involved in this wedding or will have to pass. 

3. What is the Style/Theme of the Wedding?

For your information it’s good to know the style and theme of the wedding so you know what colors or type of decor might be there. Although, your opinion might not hinder their decision on what they go with. These bridesmaid questions sometimes help you understand what dress you might need to wear, any accessories, decor, or playing along with the same theme for the bridal shower or bachelorette party.

4. As a Bridesmaid What are the Pre-wedding Events to Attend?

Ask the couple what events you are required to participate in and what tentative dates they might have in mind. Most likely they don’t have exact dates of when these will be, but this is good for you to know. In this way you can check your schedule to see if you have any other important dates that are reserved in your calendar. This is also a great way to communicate with the rest of the bridesmaids so you all can come up with a future date for each celebration. Additionally, the couple is going to want you there to participate in the bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsal, and wedding. If you find there is something you can’t commit to please be sure to bring that to their attention. 

5. Is This Something That You Want?

Ask yourself, is this something you want to be a part of? Of course if it’s your best friend, sister, etc… you will do your absolute best to be there and help give her the most unforgettable bridal experience she dreams of. But for some it might not work out better than what’s already on top of their plate. Some have kids, pregnant, or rigorous jobs that require a lot of attention. If you cannot give your 110% into the bride when she needs you then you really have to weigh out the pros and cons before actually committing. I might sound like a broken record, but communication is key. When you sit down and talk to them about your concerns they’ll appreciate that. 

I hope this advice helps you narrow your decision if you will say yes or no to being a bridesmaid. As you can see a lot more thought goes into this than you thought. These are the bridesmaid questions and answers I wish I knew before I said yes to being a bridesmaid, so I really do hope this helped.

After getting all of your questions answered and you want to become a bridesmaid. Check out our recent blog post on the responsibilities of a bridesmaid.